In a funny, thought-provoking first-person account, a young Christian woman describes the challenges of keeping one’s faith while looking for romance in the big city. Here are some questions for discussion.

1. While Anna “knows in her head” that marriage shouldn’t be the basis of her purpose in life, she can’t seem to find an alternate source of identity. Do you think that it is possible to change this ourselves? Or does the change have to happen to us? What do you tend to most find your identity in (relationships, work, family, etc.)?
2. In the book, Anna admits that she thinks heaven sounds kind of lame. What do you think heaven will be like — is it someplace you would genuinely like to be? What do you think has shaped your ideas of heaven?
3. One thing Anna struggles with throughout the book is a tendency to fragment herself and share only certain parts with other people — which she sees as bad. Do you agree that this is unhealthy? How have you seen this tendency — for good or bad — in your own life or that of friends? (more…)